On June 2, 2011, I came to work at the police department just like any other day. After attending roll call, my sergeant says he has some bad news for me…I have to attend a mandatory training class that same evening from 6:00pm to 8:30pm. I don’t really express my feelings to him, but I’m not too happy about it. All I’m told is that the class is on Victim Assistance. Not exactly a thrilling subject matter.

First of all what kind of notice is that, 10 hours. What if I had something vitally important to do? What if I had tickets to a concert? What if…well you get the meaning. Of course as all good police officers do, I got with the other members of my crew and we threw around a few complaints. What else could we do, we had to go.

While I’m driving to the class that evening an idea hits me. Okay Jeff…you don’t want to go, but how can you turn this around to the positive. I always say when life deals you a bag of lemons, add some sugar and make lemonade. I decided to make the best of it and keep an open mind and see if just maybe their is something I can learn.

Well as I was still in the process of making the “lemonade”. My co-workers and I did a little more complaining amongst ourselves. Joking about how we should wake each other up if we begin to not. I know it is a sick joke but that is law enforcement for you.

While we were standing there in the auditorium talking, a couple ladies came in and head to the front. Assuming they were the instructors, I begin heading to a seat near the front. The first thing one lady says is thank you to all of us for sitting near the front. Apparently the earlier class sat way in the back.

The instructors name is Lorraine Reed Whoberry. I won’t belabor the entire story, but in a nutshell, she describes the terrible day in 1999 when her oldest daughter, Stacie was murdered and her 14 year old daughter was strangled raped and left for dead. All this happened in their home by a young man that was infatuated with Stacie and upset that he rejected her advances.

For the next hour or so, she described the events in great detail, including many instances where she was treated with a measure of disdain and loathing that is hard to comprehend. The proverbial ball was dropped so many times by the police, prosecutor and  hospital it was sickening. It all seemed as if they conspired to add insult to injury in the events that happened in Mrs. Whoberry’s life on this day.

After a little over an hour and a half, Lorraine asks if anyone would like to take a break. NO one does. I’ve looked around a bit while she was talking and we were all completely engrossed in the story even as difficult as it was to hear. To me it felt like watching a movie. Terrible and compelling all at the same time.

What did I learn? I learned that I am on the right path for me. The path to do all I can to help spread the word about personal safety and situational awareness has within our lives each and every day. I don’t want to make the assumption that I could have done something to save those young girls from that tragic day, but what I would like to offer is that smallest little nugget of information. Something that someone might remember in the back of their mind that could possibly prevent this from happening to someones, daughter, sister or wife. I don’t assume to have all the answers, but I would bet that a few people that will interact along with me on the neverquitever.com site will impart a morsel of their wisdom as well that may be able to save someone’s life.

I encourage anyone that would like to help Lorraine or believe in what she is trying to do to check out our link in the “Links” tab on the right side of our home page.

I wish her and her family the best.


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8 Responses to The S.T.A.C.I.E. Foundation

  • Hi Jeff,
    I am deeply touched by your compassion, and mostly your honesty. I have posted this to my blog on our website, which in turn will direct folks to your website.

    As a mom, a wife, daughter, and a citizen, I have great admiration for Law Enforcement who serve and protect those in our communities. Thank you!

    In His grace,


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  • It sounds like inspirational training and a good reminder of why we got into law enforcement. I’ve been to a number of police training classes (too many actually) that were dull and provided little in benefit. Something like this will stay with an officer for all of his/her career. Thanks for sharing info on the STACIE Foundation.

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